UNETHICAL FINDOM IS NOT BDSM

Unethical Financial Domination or "FinDomming" is not BDSM.  My intention behind this statement is not to call anyone out or shame anyone, but to provide information that may benefit players on both sides.  The confusion lies in the problem that the persons responsible for the rampant explosion of the "findom" phenomenon choose to call themselves Dominatrixes, Dommes, Mistresses—titles that should be reserved for those who have earned them through the investment of finances, time and study of the BDSM arts.  Those who are solely practicing findomming should not be confused with the latter.  Real, traditional BDSM is in danger of becoming a lost art because online kink culture and community is being drowned in the hundreds of outward-facing demands for cash.

BDSM is a power exchange dynamic built upon the foundation of consent, trust, connection and mutual respect.  Other activities that comprise of the exploitation of others for selfish gain with disregard for their feelings and well-being are NOT BDSM.  They are forms of ABUSE and THIEVERY.

CLARIFICATION: I am not stating that financial domination as a legitimate kink cannot be done safely within the privacy of a healthy D/s relationship—it most definitely can.  The determination of “healthy” is contingent upon the Domme’s intent and the sub’s state of mind.  If the Domme is well-meaning, plays within responsible limits, truly cares about the sub’s emotional, psychological and financial well-being, and has established a trusting relationship with them, this kink can be played out safely.  But if the sub is in an unhealthy or imbalanced mental and psychological state of mind and is suffering from low-self-esteem, low self-worth, self-loathing, feels unloved or inadequate, they may turn to findom as a self-destructive way to act out and project their inner pain towards an erotic direction.  It is the Domme’s moral and ethical responsibility not to prey upon those subs, even with given consent.

If you are a well-meaning FinDomme who seeks to develop your Domme practice beyond those confines into a richer, more fulfilling, broader-scoped one, seek out reputable BDSM educators and mentors who can guide you along your path.  If you are interested in studying with me, I invite you to APPLY BELOW to The Dominatrix Archetype™ Online Academy.  It is my passion and honor to pass down this beloved craft to future generations of Dommes who embrace all the beautiful complexities of it as I do.

- Mistress Damiana Chi, Ph.D.